Knowing When to Quit

There comes a time in each of our lives where there is something that has to end.  It may be an old habit, a job, the time spent in a particular home or city, or in many cases today, a relationship.  I have stated before that as parents we have to set the examples for our children.  Part of that example has to be knowing when to just stop.

The divorce rate in our country is climbing higher and higher each year.  Over 70% of the reasons for them is finances.  If this statistic is accurate, that number should see significant gains this year.  Now, I am not advocating divorce because truly, the best way for a child to be brought up is in a two-parent household.  At the same time, many relationships are not making it and the children are suffering in the interim.  http://www.getmarriedstaymarried.org/Yes,%20marriage%20matters%20to%20nurturing%20of%20children.pdf

If you know that you are in a volatile relationship with your spouse or significant other, you may need to step away from the situation in order to allow it to calm.  This shows your children that fighting is not the way to resolve an issue.  It shows them that there are times when you may need to put the argument on the shelf and come back to it.  If you go back to it and there is still a battle raging, re-shelf it or seek a mediator.  Sometimes as parents, we won't ask for help, but we tell our children that they should.  More often than not, they do what we do and not what we say.

Parents are the key to changing the world.  If we do better than the last generation and pass that on to our children, the world will begin to change.  Choose your battles and choose wisely.  Somethings are not worth fighting for and it may just be time to quit.

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